This article provides an experience report on an interdisciplinary cooperation between two gender researchers and two automotive
engineers at a German technical university. It focuses on the negotiation processes around a joint research proposal, dealing
with the question of how to create concepts for a trustworthy human-machine interaction in automated driving systems that
satisfy the requirements of different user groups. These systems aim to offer the choice of automobility to groups of users who
have so far had rather limited access, or have had reasons to refuse usage. Discussions in the interdisciplinary team are still ongoing. Their substantial shifts and their expected methodological and epistemological effects are analyzed from a feminist science and technology studies (STS) perspective. The general objective of this paper is to provide insights about the contributions and challenges of integrating approaches from gender studies into the field of automotive engineering in order to support interdisciplinary dialogues that foster a socially fair and inclusive digital transformation.